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Downsizing and moving home

Without a doubt, the global pandemic has caused many people to re-think how and where they live and, with the added incentive of reduced stamp duty rates until 31 March 2021, many people are now on the move. In this helpful post, Carol Lovesey of Lovesey Organising shares her tips for downsizing and moving home.

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The key to a successful move

Whether you are downsizing, relocating to be nearer loved ones or moving to a larger property, the whole process can seem completely overwhelming.  The key to a successful move is to plan as much as possible in advance.  Even if you are moving to a larger property there is no point in taking things you never use. It requires excess thought, packaging and energy to pack up things you don’t want, just to have to unpack them in your new home. Moving unnecessary stuff could also increase your moving costs.

Whatever your circumstances, decluttering your home can be physically and emotionally draining.  Little and often is usually much easier than blocking out entire days; you may get halfway through a day and be totally exhausted.

Build “declutter muscles”

With many of my clients I try to start with the least emotive areas such as hall cupboards, kitchens and bathrooms.  Working here allows you to get used to making quick and easy decisions on what to keep and what to let go.  Having managed these areas you will then be able to build up to tackling more difficult places, such as studies, bedrooms and lofts where people often store things away that are just too emotionally challenging to cope with.

Just as you would when you start a new physical exercise regime, start slowly, and build up your “declutter muscles” with easy decisions.  That jug that Auntie Flo gave you 20 years ago which you stashed at the back of the cupboard and can’t stand?  Recycle it or sell it.  Loads of chipped and cracked crockery?  Ditch it.

Set yourself mini, achievable goals which will only take an hour or so. Here are two ideas to get you started:

  • Check your bathroom cabinet. Get rid of all the perfumes you don’t really like, or the endless foot scrubs you never use.
  • Review all the towels you’ve stashed for years with threads hanging off them. Hey presto, your bathroom storage will be done.

 

Think about how many rooms and storage cupboards you need to clear, draw up a list and start planning, making a noted in your calendar for each task.  Once everything is down on paper (or computer) it’s less of a “monster” and easier to take control of and manage.

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Categorise & sort

Depending on what storage space you have available, possessions and gadgets can end up all over the house. This means it is easy to forget what you’ve got.  Gather similar items together, such as old phones and chargers, tablecloths or duvets, then review whether you need to keep them all:

  • Do you have you enough bed linen for an army to sleep on? – Pass spares to a local homeless shelter.
  • 30 mugs in the cupboard? – Donate some to your local community centre.
  • Old phones and tablets – depending on how old they are, these can often be sold or recycled.
  • Kitchen gadgets – do you use them? More importantly, do they work? If in doubt, cast them out!

 

As a guideline, separate items as follows:

  • Keep – You have a definite use for an item or it is something you love and enjoy. Which room will it go in in your new home?  If it’s just going to be stuck in a box in the loft for the next 20 years, I would challenge you to say yourself what is the point in keeping the item?

 

  • Sell – Is the item in good condition? Do you actually have time for the selling process?  Where will you sell your item?  There are plenty of options for selling: social media groups, antique dealers, eBay but it can be time consuming.  Do you know the value of the item? It’s important to do some research; it’s easy to confuse the emotional value we put on an item with the actual re-sale value.  Be realistic on the price and remember to give anything a good clean up before photographing.

 

  • Recycle/Charity – Better still, donate to a charity shop or check the many social media outlets which have sites for giving away items for free. Due to the current COVID restrictions, if I’m not sure which local charity is taking goods, I often ask on social media groups or phone the local shops direct – this saves trawling round with a boot full of stuff!

 

  • Bin – Sometimes there’s no life left in things and they just need to be ditched. If you have a lot of stuff for disposal, check with your local council if you need to book a place at the recycling centre.  If using a rubbish clearance firm, be sure to check they are reputable and have a waste carrier licence.

 

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Motivation – eyes on the prize!

There will be items and furniture you come across in your home that you find difficult to let go of.  It’s important to notice these feelings and question why you are holding onto the items.  Ultimately, these are your things and it is your decision on what to do with them: you must do what is right for you and your family.

  • Be practical – If you have a large 5-bedroom house, garage and garden, think about the property you are moving to. How many bedrooms, reception rooms, etc does it have? What storage is there? This may sound daft but people often half forget that they will have less space when they downsize.  If you currently have a massive corner sofa unit think about whether it will overcrowd your new living room; do you need to sell it?

 

  • Be imaginative – If you have too many paintings and ornaments why not take some fabulous photographs of them and make them up into a photobook or create one big collage of your treasured memories.

 

  • Be inspired – Picture yourself in your new home: how do you want your new home to be? Have a look through home magazines or Pintrest or Instagram for ideas.

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Practicalities

I’ve moved nine times and I know how stressful the process can be.  My advice is: don’t panic, stay calm and put the kettle on, everything always seems better over a cup of tea!

Here are a few things you’ll need to consider.  Please note, this is not a definitive list, it will vary depending on your own circumstances.

  • Good relationships – Build good relationships with the professionals in the process: estate agents, solicitors, mortgage advisors and surveyors. Even if you are frustrated, upset or angry, stay calm because you never know when you will need them to pull out all the stops.

 

  • Removal team – Even if you are on a very tight budget, it is my experience that these people usually work their socks off on the day. I’d suggest checking the British Association of Removers to find registered movers or get recommendations from friends and family.  If you’re not using a registered remover but are perhaps working with a local tradesperson and van, do make sure they have insurance.  Don’t forget to show them what things have to go from sheds/garages, etc.

 

  • Supplies – Keep everyone well fed and watered on moving day. Most likely your removal teams will have met for a hearty breakfast before they start, but a plentiful supply of tea and biscuits goes a long way.

 

  • Pack well, label well – If your possessions are clearly labelled with contents and what room you want them to go into, the process will be a lot easier on the day.

 

  • Cleaning kit – You never know how the property you’re moving to will be left. Have cleaning products, broom, dustpan and hoover easily to hand.  Not to mention a couple of hard-working friends or family members!

 

  • Utilities – Make sure you know who services your new home, and sort this out as early as possible. For example, there may be a considerable lead-time for a new broadband install. Take readings on the day in your existing and new homes to update the utility companies.

 

  • Change of address – Think about everyone you have a contract or account with. This includes banks, insurance companies (car, house, pet, medical), DVLA, TV licence, magazine or lifestyle memberships and subscriptions – they all need to be advised of your new contact details. Royal Mail offers a postal redirection service.

 

I hope, these have been some useful insights for you. Remember, if you are feeling scared or overwhelmed by the whole process, you can always seek assistance from your local APDO-registered professional organiser who you can find on the APDO Find An Organiser database.

“On moving day Carol helped out no end, settling me into my new flat.
Since moving, I’ve made so many new friends and have a whole new lease of life.”

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FASHION FAST: What the #SixItemsChallenge taught us about our relationship with clothes

How many items of clothing do you have in your wardrobe? How many of them do you actually wear? And how much do you care about where they come from?

These are some of the questions two of our APDO members considered recently when they took part in the Labour Behind The Label #SixItemsChallenge earlier this year.  Mel Carruthers of More Organised and Rosie Barron of The Tidy Coo both took part, each choosing six items of clothing from their wardrobes and wearing only these six items for the six weeks of the challenge.

Mel and Rosie were both interested in the aims of Labour Behind the Label, a campaign which works to improve conditions and empower workers in the global garment industry. Their annual #SixItemsChallenge asks people to embark on a fashion fast, to rethink their wardrobe and really question their shopping habits.  So, when APDO President Katherine Blackler suggested members give it a go, Rosie and Mel both volunteered.

This is what they learned along the way!

Why did you decide to take part in the #SixItemsChallenge?

  • Rosie: I wanted to raise awareness of the impact that fast fashion has on garment workers.
  • Mel: Over the past few years I have tried to keep only items of clothing that I really loved and wore regularly. Having been a fan of Courtney Carver’s #Project333 for several years, the #SixItemsChallenge seemed like a way to challenge my relationship with clothes even further.

What were the clothes that you picked and why?

  • Rosie: Here in Aberdeenshire I live a fairly outdoor life, but I also had two conferences in London to attend during the six weeks, as well as clients to help, so I had to pick clothes that would be warm enough for home, but also smart enough to take away with me. In the end, I chose:
    – a dress I could wear to the conferences and clients
    – a cardigan
    – a jumper
    – a pair of jeans
    – 2 T-shirts

 

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Rosie’s 6 items

  • Mel: Like Rosie, I live in a rural setting so needed “outdoor” clothes as well as outfits suitable for client work and more formal occasions. I chose:
    – a black and white short-sleeved dress
    – a pair of dark skinny jeans
    – a black and white jumper
    – a black long-sleeved T-shirt
    – 2 striped Breton long-sleeve tops

 

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Mel’s 6 items

What was the hardest part of the challenge for you?

  • Rosie: With four home-educated children, 11 horses, five dogs, a cat and poultry, keeping clean was by far the biggest challenge! I went to one business meeting in a damp dress and cardigan…
  • Mel: The challenge was in March/April, as the weather was very changeable. We’d had a warm spell in March when I was choosing my six items which fooled me slightly… later in the challenge it became very cold again and I wished that I had chosen a couple of warmer items for my capsule collection! It made me realise that in our uncertain Scottish climate we need a variety of clothes for different weathers.

What did you learn?

  • Mel: That clothes don’t interest me as much as I had thought. The relief of not having to choose what I was going to wear each morning saved so much time and stress – it was so freeing to simply grab what was clean out of the six items, get dressed and get on with my day!
  • Rosie: My experience was the opposite! I realised that I care for clothes more than I thought I did, and that I like wearing dresses.

Were you surprised at this?

  • Rosie: Yes, I always had myself down as someone who wasn’t bothered about clothes and I was surprised by how much I missed some of them.
  • Mel: I was surprised too. I love pretty things and trying on clothes when out shopping. So it was a real epiphany for me to realise that I don’t need lots of clothes to make myself feel good, and that beating “decision fatigue” when getting dressed in the morning really made up for any feelings of deprivation that I was expecting to have.
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Rosie wearing 4 combinations of her 6 items.

How has the #SixItemsChallenge changed your view of your own wardrobe and shopping habits? Will you be doing anything differently now?

  • Rosie: I ended up updating my wardrobe a bit after it. Having to use only six items really made me consider how each item in my wardrobe worked with all the others. For someone who usually only shops once or twice a year, this was out of character! Apart from that, I will continue as I was before, buying quality over quantity and keeping my shopping to once or twice a year.
  • Mel: I thought that I had a fairly minimal wardrobe (about 40 items in my wardrobe and another 30 stored under the bed for better weather/a thinner Mel). The challenge helped me to decide what I really loved out of those items, and I donated the rest. I then shopped for a few more items to really complete my wardrobe and make it work better… but I did it all from local charity shops and eBay. I have definitely changed my shopping habits after learning more about the distress and waste of our society’s addiction to fast fashion and I don’t want to be part of it.

How has the challenge helped you to better support your clients?

  • Mel: I have done a few wardrobe sessions with clients since completing the challenge, and I have been able to share my experience with them which has led to some interesting conversations! At the end of the day though, our clothes say so much about us and are such a personal choice, that I will still coach my clients through their decluttering journey, rather than dictate to them based on my own feelings about clothes and fashion. But I hope that through my experience, I can raise awareness of the misery and destruction of fast fashion and help people to make better choices.
  • Rosie: I think it has made me more aware of how some people view their clothes. I am not sure I have the skill to help clients rebuild their wardrobe after a declutter, but fortunately I can refer them to someone who I trust to help them. I know my limitations!

Mel & Rosie’s’ 6 ways to beat fast fashion:

1.      Buy pre-loved clothing – charity shops, eBay and social media are rich picking grounds!

2.      Share with and borrow from friends – especially for clothes for one-off occasions.

3.      Pass children’s clothing to others when they outgrow them.

4.      Buy quality over quantity, focusing on more ethical brands.

5.      Hold a clothes swap evening with your friends.

6.      Develop your own style and rely less on the media to tell you what to wear.

If you would like to find out more about Labour Behind The Label and the #SixItemsChallenge, head to their website at www.labourbehindthelabel.org  Perhaps you could sign up to the challenge next year!

Feeling inspired by this post, but need some help with the process? Visit our Find an Organiser page to find support near you.

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Death cleaning: The six basic principles

Have you heard of Swedish Death Cleaning? In this post, Filipa do Carmo of Khora Space Sorted reviews Margareta Magnusson’s book “The Gentle Art of Swedish Death Cleaning” and explains how it works.

The six basic principles of Swedish Death Cleaning

If you found true joy in Marie Kondo’s decluttering tactics, then it’s very likely that you’ll fall in love with Margareta Magnusson’s new book “The Gentle Art of Swedish Death Cleaning”. The title might be somewhat off-putting, but this system is much more focused on the “gentle” side, rather than on “death”.

Death cleaning is what Swedish people do when they retire or slow down their working lives and have more time to deal with all the possessions they have accumulated over their lifetime. It’s about getting rid of the stuff they don’t need, so that their descendants don’t have to deal with it all.

In the author’s own words “it is a term that means removing unnecessary things and making your home nice and orderly when you think the time is coming closer for you to leave the planet.”

Margareta Magnusson is a Swedish artist “between her 80th and 100th birthdays”, who studied at the Beckman College of Design. A mother of five, she has lived all over the world including Singapore and Hong Kong. Her debut book is a New York Times Bestseller.

Here are my top six lessons from the book, although I would recommend getting a copy, reading it and then passing it on to someone who might also benefit from reading it.

1  It’s not sad

Simplifying your life and making your day-to-day life easier should never be considered sad. Margareta has a wickedly dry sense of humour, so by reading her book you’re most likely to approach the whole process from a lighter perspective.

She also takes pragmatism to its most sublime when she writes things like “Some people can’t get their heads around death. And these people leave a mess after them. Did they think they were immortal?”

2  Be gentle

Having said that, it’s also important to recognise that this won’t be the most cheerful task you’ve ever done. It’s important to be really kind to yourself throughout the process.

You will also find that the more you do it, the easier it will become and the less time it will take. The “practice makes perfect” principle applies seamlessly in this instance.

3  No time to rush

Unlike Kondo, Margareta’s approach relies on taking time to go through all your possessions and decide what to do with them. This is a slow journey taken over a long period of time. This means that you can work at your own pace and think well about what you want to do with the things you own. You can distribute them amongst your family and friends if you’re downsizing. Or, for things you are keeping, you can label them with instructions so that people know what to do with them when you’re no longer here.

Another important aspect is that death cleaning is a state of mind. You don’t have to wait until you’re 65 to start. The sooner you start, the easier it will be. If you are feeling overwhelmed with all the things you have, this a practice that you can start now, regardless of your age.

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4  Think legacy

One thought that might help you throughout the process is that death cleaning will make life so much easier for your loved ones. By discarding your things and taking full responsibility for what you own, you will not only feel empowered, but you will also be leaving only good memories and valuable references for your family. Grieving is painful; anything we can do to make it better will be highly appreciated.

Margareta has done a lot of death cleaning for her family and her testimonials of those experiences help us understand the importance of this practice.

During the process, keep asking yourself “Will this object give happiness to anyone I know?”.

5  Leave the best to last

As with Kondo, the best way to proceed is to start with the things that will be easier to part with. Your kitchen is a good place to start. You will probably have more plates than you need, duplicates and gadgets you rarely use. These are all good to donate.

“You may even have forgotten what it is you have there. Good for you, because you will now realize that you will not miss anything if you throw it away.”

Photos, personal letters and other memoirs should be saved for last. Margareta’s rule of thumb is to shred photos if you don’t know the name of the people in them. Also, she has scanned photos from her children, saved them on a memory stick and given each of them one for Christmas. Isn’t that a wonderful idea?

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6  Tell

Finally, it’s good to be up front about this process and tell the people around you know what you are doing and why. It will be easier to get the help you need and to find new homes for your unwanted objects. It’s also a good way to share the fond memories associated with some of these objects and an object with a story to tell always has special value.

If this post has inspired you to start with your own death cleaning or decluttering process, you can find your nearest professional organiser here.

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Divorce and Downsizing: 3 Steps to Letting Go of Your Belongings

Sarah Macnaught specialises in helping clients to rightsize their homes and their possessions as they move through the divorce process.

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When people are going through a divorce I’m often brought in to help deal with their belongings. There are various scenarios. Sometimes the husband leaves to start a new relationship, taking the bare minimum of possessions. His wife is left feeling overwhelmed and resentful about having to deal with every single thing. So she calls me. On other occasions family lawyers and divorce coaches refer cases to me because their clients are arguing over Every. Single. Thing. As well as the negative moods and toxic atmosphere, couples fighting over joint possessions can lead to higher legal fees and longer settlement periods.

As a professional organiser and belongings coach I get my clients to approach dividing their belongings in various ways. But I encourage them to base each decision on this one value: “Is this fair and reasonable?”

Here are 3 steps to dividing up the home that all separating couples should follow to make the process as smooth as it can be.

Be Practical: Make an Inventory of Everything

Think like a removal company and draw up a home inventory. There are phone apps you can use – Sortly and Encircle are brilliant – and you can produce downloadable documents to share with each other and legal teams. Photograph stuff wherever possible and give each item some sense of size like this:

4 drawers obsolete black & cream computer cables

3 shelves football programmes

3 boxes old cosmetics

8 large boxes wine glasses

1 three-seater sofa

10 metres of DVDs

This will make you both stop and think. No, it isn’t fair for one partner to deal with everything. And the cost of setting up two new homes will be offset if belongings are distributed fairly and reasonably, just as financial assets are.

Be Mindful: Expanding into Two Homes

“If I keep (all) this, is that fair and reasonable?” Especially when children are involved, both homes will be family homes, so an even division of all utensils, furniture, clothing and toys is important. Though there are often things (mother-in-law’s ornate vase anyone?) that both partners will gleefully donate to charity rather than lay claim to. The excess of possessions in UK homes is well documented so there’s practically always enough to go around. One parent doesn’t need the standard British haul of 8 pots and 6 casserole dishes!

Also couples should think about their short term accommodation before making any decisions. One father told me, “I insisted on the 3-seater sofa and oversized armchairs from our 6 bedroom Victorian home. When the removal company arrived at my rented townhouse, absolutely nothing could fit up the narrow stairs to the living room on the first floor.  It’s all still in storage, two years later.”

Be Generous: The True Meaning of Conscious Uncoupling

Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin may have made conscious uncoupling a ‘thing’ but it was originally coined by US therapist Katherine Woodward Thomas in 2011. The idea here is that you give generously as you let go of your possessions – re-gifting large furniture you love but have no room for; selling old paintings and donating the proceeds to your favourite charity; setting up a Men’s Shed with all your DIY tools and materials. The bigger the act of generosity on your part, the better you’ll feel about letting go.


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